DEBT FREEDOM: GOD’S WAY, THE EASY WAY!!!

Preamble 

Contentment is crucial if you must stay out of debt. Jesus does not gather people to use them, but rather to bless them. He is not an opportunist taking advantage of people. No matter what debt you are in right now, God has the resources to bring you out of it within a twinkle of an eye. The truth is truth for all ages and all times. The day you get addicted to following the truth, you have committed the author of life to take charge of your affairs.

Debt has become an acceptable way of life for most people. Unfortunately, due to this mind-set, they will remain in bondage to it. To eliminate debt from your life, you must change the way you think about it. God does not want anyone to be in debt; however, if you are  in over your head, He has  a way out to deliver you out of it once and for all.

There are two ways  to get out of debt. You can use the world’s system or the kingdom of God system. World in the bible doesn’t  necessary  refer to the physical world, but a way of doing things. In 1Corinthians 7:31, the Greek definition for world is “worldly affairs”, which include the whole circle of earthly goods and riches, while although fleeting, stir desire, seduce from God and are obstacles to the cause of Christ”.

The world’s system is influenced by Satan and is designed to keep you in bondage. Methods of debt reduction include bankruptcy, second mortgages and ways to “manage” debt, such as consolidation and signature loans. These options may look good at first, they often lead to a dead-end.

It is disheartening  to see people develop great faith for something like healing but quickly charge or obtain loans for the items they desire, not the items they need. Often they don’t  even consider trusting God for the  increase necessary to purchase  whatever it is that they want. Instead, people continually fall back on the things they can see and touch. Others attempt to do things God’s way, but stop when it does not seem to be  working. They have not implemented  certain requirements – such as checking their hearts for unforgiveness  or offense, tithing or showing love towards others, for God to be able to work in their lives.

God has proved Himself time and again throughout the Bible. He is not a respecter of persons (Romans 2 :11). If He delivered one person from debt, He’ll do it for you as well. Rest assured that God has a way out for you, but it is up to you to take the time to hear from Him and then follow His instructions.

GOD’S WAY OR THE HIGHWAY

Matthew 3:33 (AMP) says, “But see first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things taken together will be given you besides.” Your aim, or focus, should be directed towards God’s  way of doing and being right. According to the scripture, if you follow God’s way, then the things that you don’t have will be given to you. These includes things such as money, promotion and favour.

What does the Bible mean by “God’s  way”, when it concerns money? The parable of the sower, or farmer, in Mark 4 : 11 – 29 reveals the  answer to this question.

Basically, a farmer sows seed to produce a crop that will ultimately be sold. From the proceeds of the sale, he is then able to pay his bills and feed his family. You could say that he has to sow to make a living. Likewise, a sower (one who gives to the kingdom of God above his or her tithe) sows seed  for a living. I encourage you to become a sower who gives to live and lives to give.

Many people look at their jobs as their only source  of income. How well does it sustain you? Does it meet all of your needs, including everything God asks you to do? Probably not. Your job alone won’t get the job done. It is therefore an avenue whereby you can collect seed. It is therefore an  avenue whereby you can collect seed.

Before you sow any type of financial seed, you must sow the word into your heart. The Bible calls the Word of God an incorruptible seed (1Peter 1:23). In other words, the Word will always produce a harvest. You should not consider sowing money if you have not first sown the Word into your heart. Why? You must have a clear understanding of the purpose for the blessings of sowing before you can become a willing and cheerful giver.

After the word is sown in your heart, it must be cultivated. In following the farmer’s example, he waters and fertilizes the seed after it is planted. He can’t afford to lie around and neglect his crops. Likewise, you can’t neglect the things of God, such as reading your Bible, praying and living a life that is pleasing to Him. A quick way to keep your seed from growing is to get caught up in sin. This could range from bitterness and gossip to lying, fornication or adultery. Sin of any type will block your harvest from manifesting.

Mark 4:2 says “…so is the kingdom of God, as if a man should cast seed into the ground”. Combining this scripture with Matthew 6:33, the verse  could read, “seek ye first (seed time and harvest time)… and these things shall be added unto you”. This is God’s way of doing things. Before a farmer can harvest a crop, he first has to sow seeds. Likewise, before you can receive, you must give.

If you  want to get out of debt, stop looking at the world’s way of debt cancellation. Look to God’s way of seed, time and harvest.

Sowing into the kingdom of GOD  unleashes an awesome force. You may not start off giving large amount of money, but the $5, $10 or $20 you sow will release God’s unlimited power towards your debt reduction. Giving is loading your cloud and when your cloud is full, God turns it into showers. (Joel 2:23) (Eccl 11:1-3). These showers come in the forms of favour, breakthrough, divine ideas, etc.

Some covenant channels of giving:

·       Worship Offerings We are admonish not to appear before the Lord empty handed. Our worship offering is not complete without our seeds being involved.

·       Project offerings Deuteronomy  16:16-17).

·   Giving to the poor He that gives to the poor shall not lack. Proverbs 19:17, Proverbs 28:27, Psalm 41:1-3

·   Giving to charity:  This is giving for the common good. Job 38:3-18, 2Corinthian 9:8, Matthew 25:31-44

·     Giving to parents: Genesis 27:1-end

·        Kingdom Investment: Investing towards the expansion of the kingdom. Haggai 1:3-11. Exodus 35:4,16,22.

·        Tithing

·        Prophet offerings

YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW Luke 6:38

Giving provokes the release of blessings and blessing is the cure to curses.  Looking also at Luke 6:13, “And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise”. If you want to be released from debts, start by releasing those who owe you. Verses 32-35 explain how easy it is to do things for the people you like. But anybody can do that! You will receive a greater reward, however, if you do this for those you don’t see as your friends.

 Giving is not enriching the church but empowering the giver. Give  to those who don’t give in return. The law of seed-time and harvest will never cease as long as the earth remains (Genesis 8:22).

Whatever you sow will produce a harvest (Luke 6:36-38). When someone treats you badly, don’t sow the same seed, instead, sow a good seed. You will reap a good harvest while the opportunity to sow “do-good” seeds instead of do-bad seeds.

Jesus said that when you give, it would be returned to you. The word promises that your harvest will be pressed down, shaken together and running over. If you help one person get out of  debt, God will use someone else to help you get out of debt.

As  you follow God’s way today, I see unusual favour from God flowing your way. (Genesis 7:11)

Finally, know that in this kingdom, it is either you  are a giver or a beggar.

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CHOOSING THE RIGHT PARTNER.

The importance of choosing the right partner during courtship can never be over-emphasized.

Courtship should be entered into only by prepared and mature minded singles.

It is not a game of “win or lose”, courtship is a serious business.

Courtship is a step of faith, which precedes the journey  of faith into marriage”(as marriage is a journey of faith). If the courtship days are embarked upon in the fresh, you will need the flesh to sustain you, and anything done in the flesh  does not last, but when you embark upon it walking in the spirit, you won’t  be confused or misled. Why choose “endurance” when you have the option of enjoyment.

  

Fulfillment in courtship leading into marriage comes only when you are surrendered to the Holy spirit, “No longer I but Christ in me”.

There are definitely price tags to this commitment which may mean self – denial, absolute obedience (even when it does not make sense), keeping your body under your control, loving even when it is difficult to, never giving up too easily, not roller coastering in and out of relationships, accepting the person regardless of past or family background.

It sure takes a spiritually matured mind to do all these and more.

The number one test of a genuine relationship is the peace you have in your heart about the person after praying on the matter. Don’t go seeing for people’s approval or disapproval over the person you are about courting or already courting, you may receive false confirmation.

Rather pray about the person, be patient, not hasty, if the person is meant for you another person won’t take him/or, then he/she was not meant for you, you do not have to fight over the matter or be threatened over the matter, let go is he/she is not meant for you.

Remove everything that may want to becloud your mind and cause you to be love-blind”, e.g. beauty, physical  appearance, finances, profession, educational background, family background, eloquence in speech etc.

These things on their own may not be bad at all, but can turn out to be bad if they are the driving force or focus of attraction towards the person.

You really cannot get to know all about a person during courtship, no matter how long  your courtship may last, another truth is you really can’t know all about  yourself too, just within the period of courtship, however, as much as this period is important and we begin to get to  know our likes or dislikes, differences and similarities, we should be realistic and never assuming, misplacing true love for infatuation or feelings. You must thus take time to stay and build your relationship on a love that outlasts feelings, or else what seems to be the major reason of attraction, may turn out to be the major source of pain.

What is the acid test of true love without strings attached?

ASK YOURSELF THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS:

1.      What happens if the facial appearance is not like I met you?

2.      What happen if you change profession in future?

3.      What happens if the money is no longer there?

4.      What happens if the physical changes?

5.      What happens if there is delay in child birth?

6.      What happens if she can’t cook as good as you expect?

7.      What happens when the family you looked for support is not there?

8.      What happens if either family is against the relationship? (e.g. he or she is from a rich family).

9.      What happens if further education is not attained?

10. What happens if he or she already has a child outside wedlock?

If you are able to sincerely and truthfully answer these questions and many others as it may apply to you, then you can judge for yourself the stand or basis of your love.

“Love in courtship /marriage is not meant to be feelings which is subject to change, but an act (for love is always in action) that is continuous  and lingers on forever”.

TEN YEARS OF PASSIONATE LOVE

James and Chinwe were both in the same university and attended the same campus fellowship; it was not really love at first sight, because each had other people interested in having a relationship with them. So they related to one another just as friends for a period of three years. After three years of friendship  they discovered they loved each other, with prayers and counsel from trusted couples they embarked on taking a step of faith into courtship, both following the peace in their heart concerning their relationship. Their courtship lasted for five years and they promised the Lord and themselves they would  never defile the bed  before marriage, they kept to their promise and the Lord saw them through. They confessed they were both tempted sexually many times, but their burning love for God kept them from doing evil, they also placed some precautionary measures and boundaries for themselves, which help them all through their courting days.

Many times they had to go back to their closet, to seek the face of God, asking for grace and strength to hold on emotionally, and God didn’t deny them of it, as he saw the sincerity of their asking for backup for their fleshy weakness. They made it through to marriage and they are happily married. Chinwe, attended a job interview after six years of marriage and blessed with two children, surprisingly to her, three of the major men on the interview panel threw a question at her to describe her husband in a nutshell, by the time she as through, the men have never seen a woman descried her husband so passionately, sincerely and truthful like you, they all said they were willing and eager to meet with this wonderful husband of  this young lady. It is obvious to everyone around them how they are still like two love birds even after ten years in marriage. They are seen everywhere together, James is till “head over heels in love with Chinwe and it is certainly not hidden at all.

They have had and still having their fair share of challenges marriages go through but their  togetherness and oneness standing on Christ their solid rock and firm foundation, has not allowed the storms of life to sweep them away. Chinwe has doubled her initial weight –before they married- and her belly fat has made her almost lost her trimmed figure, which she had before marriage, but James tells her how beautiful she still looks to him.

JAMES also has added so much weight and muscles with a rounded pot belly, and Chinwe is still contented  with him that way, especially with the muscles on his arms now, which she had always wanted him to have. They both made a deliberate choice of enjoying and not enduring their marriage, with constant prayers, sacrifices and hard work on their marriage; they are  obviously getting what they bargained for i.e. a peaceful and enjoyable home.

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Why do people cheat on their partners

Every couple, when entering into an intimate, committed relationship and hopefully before marriage, should have the infidelity conversation. The understanding of infidelity is quite blurred as some may not consider emotional infidelity as a breach of trust but it actually is. Both physical and emotional intimacy with somebody other than your spouse is infidelity. Physical infidelity or sexual relations outside an intimate relationship is distrust and betrayal, while emotional intimacy can be  emotional dependence where quality time, attention and romantic love is spent with a person other than the one you are in a relationship with. In both cases, the other person in the relationship is cheated and  betrayed accounting to infidelity.

Most people in relationship would agree that commitment means never going astray  on sex, and at times even being emotionally intimate to someone else. In a recent survey, it was found that many people admit to being unfaithful at some point in their life. It is bemusing that the married lot cheated more than the single.

The reasons for this vary from person to person, but the single factor that is relevant to both genders is the aversion to commitment.  With  the romance coming to an end after marriage, many people cannot reconcile themselves to the mundane life. They want the same attraction back which is not possible in the partner with whom they have spent their last year together.

A nagging wife or over passionate husband can make the spouses look for another person to get sanity back into their life. That is one of the prime reasons why men and women fall into the arm of a person other than their partner.

In case of some persons. It is peer group tendency that drives them to commit adultery. In case a buddy does it and shows if off as  something fun, there are many men who cannot resist it. The same goes for women as some friends make their  make cheat just for kicks.

In case of men, it is the starvation of sex that leads them to have it outside  of wedlock. If the woman is not willing to have  sex as much as the man demands, he  is going to look for someone who can satisfy him and vice versa.

The craving  for new thrill is one of the most important reasons  behind cheating.  A man has gratified himself with you, and is not likely to feel the same again. That brings out the urge to experiment, in other words, flirting with other women. If  a person is in a state of despair and under great stress, having an affair can fix many  problems. It can not only give release from tension but also work  to boost the ego of a person as he or she now feels more desirable. This is usually due  to lack of spark or mutual appreciation in a relationship.

HOW TO DEAL WITH THOUGHTS OF INFIDELITY

Before you decide to cheat on your partner, learn to deal with the thoughts of infidelity by figuring  out what is lacking in your relationship and bringing thoughts that could cost you love of your current partner and family.

·         The foremost step  to deal with thoughts of infidelity is to figure out the incidences of such thoughts. Day dreaming about your favorite  movie star/s or getting attracted to someone on the street is perfectly normal, but getting intimate with another  person is an indication that your current relationship is lacking something essential. Instead of focusing your attention on the one whom you admire, reevaluate your relationship with your partner to know the differences.

·         While having thoughts of  cheating on your partner, just give a thought  to its dire consequences. Think how it will hurt your partner and everybody else around you. If children are involve, think how it is going to influence their life and their mental development.  Infidelity does not involve you and your partner, it impinges  on your family’s  mentality and tears them apart. The best solution is to locate the problems in your relationship that brought you to think of cheating with your partner. Such thoughts  can be forced by innumerable reasons such as staying away for too long or giving  a lot of importance to the person you are attracted to.

·         To deal with the issue of infidelity, the best option is to communicate your feeling to your partner. Do not state to him or her that you are having thoughts  of infidelity, but explain that  you are finding some difficulties in your relationship. Tell him or her what is missing in the relationship and try to voice your present feelings. Do it in a way that it does not hurt your partner’s emotions and try to clear your doubts as much as possible  so that the two of you can decide appropriate  future actions i.e.  whether to make things work or take individual ways. Putting an end to relationship  is always better than being unfaithful  and disloyal.

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